Who suffers the most in the event of separation? Science says men never fully recover

The separation hurts. No matter if you are male or female, breaking up is never easy as this is human nature.

This doesn’t mean that all breakups have to be messy or that everyone ends up hating each other (in fact, it’s very possible to break up with the same love we’re bonded with), but there are those who suffer the most. Now, according to researchers, we know that it is men who suffer the most in this condition in the long run.

According to researchers at Binghamton University and University College London, men often never fully recover from a breakup. Yes, they move forward, sometimes they talk about their feelings and sometimes they are silent, and it is precisely this parental upbringing that makes them, paradoxically, the most suffering.

Women know that wounds can heal faster when we talk about them, but many men are silent about their pain and deal with it themselves.

this study He says women experience more emotional distress when they break up, but men never (or nearly) recover 100%.

The scientists asked 5,705 participants from 96 different countries to rate their physical and emotional pain on a scale from 0 (none) to 10 (unbearable), and found that men rated both pain numbers lower:

“Initially, women tend to be more affected by a breakup and report higher levels of physical and emotional pain. Women scored an average of 6.84 for emotional distress versus 6.58 for men. Regarding physical pain, women scored 4.21 versus 3.75 for men. While While the breakup hits women harder physically and emotionally, they tend to recover fully and come out of a situation stronger emotionally. On the other hand, men never fully recover, they just move on.”

Separation is an important part of our lives, says Craig Morris, research associate. On average, by the time we turn 30, we will have experienced 3 breakups, one of which affects us so much that it reduces our quality of life.

“People lose their jobs, students miss classes, and individuals can engage in very self-defeating patterns after a breakup,” Morris says. “With a better understanding of this physical and emotional response to breakup and post-relationship grief, we may find a way to mitigate the effects on high-risk individuals.”

What would these ways be to “mitigate” the effects? We don’t know that yet. For now, fiction in films like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, with Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet, has taught us that forgetting about the experiences we’ve had in a relationship (good or bad) is definitely not the answer.